Scriptural Secrets for Marriage

From the CD “Marriage: Scriptural Secrets” available upon request.

1) Words Make a Difference
Proverbs 12:18, “Reckless words pierce like a sword.”
What you say to your spouse is creating in them images and attitudes. This can be good or bad. People who ridicule or use their spouse as a source of jokes are wrong. Proverbs 11:13, “A gossip betrays a confidence.” Certain information about the marriage relationship does not belong in daily conversation with other people. If you are having a disagreement with your spouse you should talk about it with your spouse.

2) My wife is my best friend Genesis 2:24, “they will become one flesh” speaks of the unity of the couple’s soul and body. Spending time together and sharing conversations will enhance a relationship. It is sad when men need to have men’s night out to get away from their wife, the very person they should want to share their life with.

3) Guard your Heart because Love is not Magical. The phase “falling in love” gives the impression that falling in love with someone cannot be helped. Our culture gives the impression that love is an outer force beyond our control. No! We need to guard our hearts. If a man “falls in love” with another woman while he is married this is not magical, it is wrong. A married person cannot allow a relationship to grow outside of marriage. Don’t be deceived; guard your heart.

4) Learn how to Argue Ephesians 4:26, “In your anger do not sin.” Anger and disagreements are not sin, nor are they wrong. Some things should make us angry. Sin occurs when the argument begins to focus on destroying the other person and not resolving the problem.

5) Love begins with the Husband Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” A wife will respond to a love like that.